It was a good day after all......

Ahhh, Valentine's Day. It is hailed as the most romantic day of the year. Folks scrambling wildly to get the perfect gift or arrange for the perfect date. Lots of folks get marrigae proposals and rose petal turn-downs at classy hotels,and need I mention the after hours aerobic activities??? Well, I was not in that group,but that's okay. It's been since 1996 that I spent V-day with a sweethaeart and time has taught me how to enjoy the holiday for myself even though I am by myself. The day started with a loving call to my Mom and wishing her all the love she could stand. Then I got a Valentine text from the guy that broke up with me (what an ass). I was going to be mean and not respond...I at least responded thanks. Oh it gets funnier....he sent me a cheap a%# card in the mail the read "Valentine wishes with lots of love". Ok, he must really think I'm desparate for male attention. Again, I silenced the evil voice telling me to not thank the clown for the card.... I texted him a thank you. Then he responds..."Just letting you know you're being fondly thought of." WTH????? Ok, now it's REALLY obvious he wants to keep me in rotation for occasional nooky. I ain't the one!!! When I'm done with you, I'm done! Liek the Bible says (and I'm paraphrasing) "going back to your old ways is like a dog returning to it's vomit". Needless to say I haven't heard anymore from him,which proves all that was just a bunch of mess.
I went to mall, bought myself some lip gloss and some smell-good for the crib. Then I stopped by the store to pick up a card and some flowers for a homegirl of mine. Us single women have to encourage each other and show each other love. I met Babs and the Intern for 'Ritas and chips..(check out Babs' blog...I got a new nickname), then I headed off to see 5 Men On A Stool. I had a great time. Of course when I returned home,my dog Chip was excited to see me as always. Good ole faithful,unconditional lovin' Chip. Before I closed my eyes, I thanked God for His love, the love of family,friends,Chip,and definately the love I have for myself. In the words of that 20th century poet Ice Cube..."today was a good day..."

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It's a new year and it's been a heck of a long time since my last entry. A lot has happened, some good things,some bad things,but I'm still here.

I just started locking my hair last week and I love them already. I wanted a new look and that's what I got. I changed my hair color to a deep auburn and I've gotten back into the gym.

Enough of the physical stuff....Spiritually, I'm being made over as well. Last year was pretty rough for me and I really fell off the wagon. I began to wonder if God really cared. You know how it is when things don't work out the way you'd like,so you decide to take matters into your own hands? Yep, that was my mistake. I made connections with people who did not have my best interest at heart. I was drained,my heart was bleeding, and my soul felt empty. The crazy part is that everything in my spirit told me that those folks were not to be trusted,not to be allowed in my space. Of course I ignored my spirit's warning and moved ahead to feed my desire to end the lonliness. Those relationships took me to some dark places. Still, I stayed knowing full well I should walk away. Both men ended up leaving me. Was I hurt? Yes. Did I cry? Yes. Did I regret their departure? NO!!!!! Thankfully, I was woman enough to look in the mirror and admit that I had the power in the first place to walk away. Secondly, I realized that I still had some healing to do. It was truly something to be with a new man that reminded me of the men I dated before. Painful,very painful.

So, I had a heart to heart with God. And because He is sooo merciful and sooo loving, He gladly wiped away my tears and helped me to get back on my feet again. Instead of running ahead of God, I'm allowing Him to lead me. I'm sitting still and really watching,listening,learning. I'm facing the problems of my past that I've allowed to keep me from moving forward. I've asked God to hold on to my heart so that I won't foolishly give it away anymore. I've asked God to teach me how to love Him,myself, and others the right way. So, in the late watches of the night I listen to the Lord, I listen to my heart,I let healing take place..........